When I found out I was pregnant it was a huge surprise for everyone, including myself. I was 21 years old, not married, and came from a very strict traditional home. There were a lot of tears. Tears of fear but also of happiness to know that there was someone living inside of me! I will soon turn 29 and now have 2 kids. It has been a tough journey full of good and bad. I guess when I found out I was pregnant for the first time I wasn’t really sure what to expect.
Thankfully I had the support of many people. I was scared, nervous, excited, I felt every emotion there was to feel. I was in college, I worked 2 jobs at the time, I still had so many goals and dreams that I wanted to accomplish. With that being said here are 5 things that I have learned from being a young mother.
Number 1: I had to learned to have real “Patience”. I always felt I was pretty patient when it came to other things in life but boy oh boy having a newborn baby taught me such a different type of patience. Having a baby cry multiple times throughout the day and the night, then having a toddler to chase around and be patient when they were learning to try and do new things. Believe me if you feel you are not ready for a child because you barely have patience, you will definitely learn to have patience especially since it’s your own child that you are caring for and protecting. Don’t get me wrong there are still times when you lose your patience and feel you’re going crazy but your patience tolerance totally increases.
Number 2: I have learned to work so much harder to reach or accomplish anything I set my mind too. Something that always comes to my mind when I say or think of this is the fact that I was in college for a couple of years already and I had pretty decent grades but I definitely could have done better. Especially not having the responsibility of caring for anyone else other then myself. It was tough at first finding a balance but after I found that balance I continued school and my grades improved so much more. That’s because I knew I had to finish school, I knew how much harder it was, and how much more it meant to me because I was missing out on precious time by being away from my child to continue school and I didn’t want to just let all that time lost be for nothing.
Number 3: Time Management. This is something that has helped me so much throughout everything that I have done and continue to do. I was always that girl who procrastinated with everything (sometimes I still do procrastinate lol). However having a child I had to definitely step it up and be able to get things done on time and get things done right. I had to manage my time better. During my pregnancy I experienced morning sickness all day so that didn’t help that I still had to go to work and go to school. Then with the homework or projects from school and other things I had going on I felt I didn’t have the time to get anything done. I ended up dropping out for a couple of semesters so that I could get things straight and into perspective. Finally I created a schedule that helped me put everything into place. I enrolled back in school and I was able to manage everything that was going on with work, school, and a baby. I had to find the time to dedicate time to what was most important. I made the time for my child, for school, and for work. Things from there just seemed to go so much smoother.
Now I do sometimes think that everything would be so much easier if I were to have waited until my thirties to have my first child. But everything happens for a reason and I am so grateful that I have my two children who drive me nuts at times but at the same time have taught me so much more about life and about myself.